Veda Carmine-Ritchie

Springtime speed round Inspired by Jemima Jo Kirke's column 'Tender Tips' in Elle: I bring you a very non-earnest, springtime speed round… Dear Friend of Dorothy, "How do I say no to my boss when there's already too much on my plate?" Instead of saying no, ask for help or fake an injury. "How do I get over my ex? :(( " Stop making them the muse of your life.  Instead, pick something from nature, or someone you will never meet.  "I have 3 men blocked on my phone. Does this mean I need a...

The perfect first date formula Dear Friend of Dorothy, What’s your perfect first date formula? Best, 404 Dear 404, Well, well, well…how did my readers know that I was in possession of a  perfect  first date recipe!??? Just kidding, I am fully aware that I posted about having a ‘perfect first date formula’ just HOPING someone would ask. I mean, come on, it’s the month of Valentine’s Day! I  love  love! And as a retired serial dater, it seems like my role is now to share with the public what...

January's advice column Dear Friend of Dorothy, How ethical is phone sex with your ex? (Lesbian asking) Best, C Dearest C, The reality of running an advice column is that I will never know the full story. I can only answer the question with my own investigation, experiences, and values. Everyone has work to do regarding attachment, and everyone has things to learn. Walking the line of intimacy with a former partner  always  takes effort to be fulfilling for all parties. That is the first...